How do I narrow down my wish list?

Set up three boxes, label them "must have", "emotional withdrawal", and "can live with out". Sort between the three the n take the "emotional withdrawal" box and dump it into the "can live without" box and dump the "can live without" box into the trash. Then start over with the contents of the "must have" box sorting them into the three boxes. Repeat till there's just one item in the "must have" box and dump that out too.